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Dominatrix meaning: a dominatrix is a woman who takes the dominant role in BDSM play. The word is Latin in form, the feminine of dominator, and it reached English in the 1960s. Mistress is the usual form of address; domme is the shorthand used inside the scene.
What a dominatrix actually does
She runs the session. That means setting the rules, giving the instructions and deciding the pace, with your limits agreed in advance. Typical elements are orders and discipline, restraint, impact play with a hand, crop or paddle, humiliation of the kind you have asked for, worship of her feet or shoes, and scenes built around control rather than contact.
A point that surprises people: a professional dominatrix session is usually not sexual. She is not there to sleep with you, and most pro dommes do not. The intensity comes from the power, not from the act.
Dominatrix or domination escort?
A professional dominatrix works from a dungeon with equipment, a cross, a bench, a cage, and takes sessions that can run two hours or more. A domination escort is an escort who enjoys leading, working from her own apartment or your hotel with cuffs, a blindfold and whatever she owns, and the booking is otherwise a normal one with her in charge.
Most people searching for a dominatrix in London actually want the second. If you genuinely want a dungeon, say so when you call and we will tell you honestly whether anyone with us can offer it. Our domination escorts page lists the ladies who lead.
What a session involves
- A conversation first. Limits, the safe word, what you want from it. Never skipped.
- Her choosing. Being told rather than asked is the point, so a session where you direct every move is not really a session.
- A wind-down. Water, a blanket, ordinary conversation. Build ten minutes in at the end.
Rates and etiquette
With us the rate is the lady’s own hourly rate, shown on her profile; there is no dominatrix surcharge. Professional dungeons in London charge separately for the room and usually require longer sessions. Address her as she asks you to, arrive showered, bring nothing she has not approved, and treat her instructions as the booking rather than an obstacle to it.
If you are new to it, read our guide to what BDSM means first, and consider ninety minutes rather than an hour.
Good to know
Questions
A woman who takes the dominant role in BDSM, usually professionally. She sets the rules and leads the session within limits you agree beforehand.
Usually not. A professional dominatrix session is built on power rather than sex, and most pro dommes do not offer it.
A dominatrix works from a dungeon with equipment and long sessions. A domination escort enjoys leading and works from her apartment or your hotel, with the booking otherwise normal.
Mistress is the usual form of address unless she tells you otherwise. Ask at the start rather than guessing.
With us it is the lady's own hourly rate with no surcharge. Professional dungeons charge for the room as well and tend to want two hours or more.