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Lingam massage: a tantric massage focused on the penis, the perineum and the area around them, done slowly and with breathing, where reaching the end quickly is not the aim. The word is Sanskrit, usually translated as wand of light, and tantra uses it in place of blunter terms. The female equivalent is yoni massage, and we have a separate guide to that.
What makes it different from a hand job
Pace and intent. A lingam massage takes most of an hour before it goes anywhere near a conclusion, and much of it is spent on the thighs, the stomach, the perineum and the base rather than the obvious place. She will slow down every time you get close, which is the whole technique: the arousal is built, dropped back and built again, several times over.
Men who have had one usually describe the finish as different in kind rather than degree, and some sessions are deliberately left without one.
How a session is structured
- Breathing first. A few minutes of slow breathing, which sounds like nothing and makes most of the difference.
- A full-body massage. Oil, back, shoulders, legs. Nothing hurried.
- The lingam work. Oiled hands, varied strokes and pressure, with long pauses. The perineum and the area below often get as much attention as the shaft.
- Edging. Taken close, then stopped, several times. This is where the hour goes.
- A finish, or not. Agreed in advance. Both are normal in tantra.
Prostate work
Some practitioners include external pressure on the perineum, which reaches the prostate from outside. Internal prostate massage is a separate thing and a separate conversation, and not every lady offers it. Say what you want when you book rather than during.
Booking one in London
Ask for tantric massage rather than using the Sanskrit, since that is the word on the profiles. Our tantric massage escorts list it, and the wider erotic massage in London page shows everyone who offers massage of any kind.
Book ninety minutes. An hour works, but the build is the point and a clock-watched version of it misses what people come for. Rates are the lady’s own and shown on her profile; there is no surcharge for this style.
Before you go
Shower beforehand, eat lightly, and leave the phone face down. Tell her at the start if you would rather it ended without a finish, or if you want her to stop when you get close rather than carry you over. She cannot read your mind, and the session runs on exactly that kind of instruction.
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Questions
A slow tantric massage of the penis and the area around it, built on breathing and repeated build-ups rather than on reaching the end quickly.
It is the Sanskrit word for the male organ, used in tantra and usually translated as wand of light.
No. The pace is the difference: most of the hour is spent elsewhere or holding you just short, and some sessions deliberately end without a finish.
External perineum pressure often features. Internal prostate massage is a separate thing that not every lady offers, so ask when you book.
Ninety minutes. An hour works but the long build is the point, and rushing it removes most of the effect.